Episode 2: PAY ATTENTION TO RED FLAGS.

Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan, Osun State, Nigeria

Red flags are anything you don’t like; anything that comes as negative for you. And you see it happen. Please pay attention to it; don’t ignore them.

For example, one Red Flag I remembered; my grandma was the one that even told me that one: My grandma would say that anybody who is courting you, and comes to visit you at home (where you have relations) and does not come with something (no matter how small). She said, he will be stringy is he marries you.

He can give to your father and mother – it doesn’t matter. But people around you, is he giving to them?

Another Red Flag is somebody who probably is Rude – You saw the way she was talking to her brother. Or she is talking to the father or mother rudely. Very rude! And you think; sebi me am the husband, I will control her.

… It might not work that way!

Those are Red Flags!

Somebody who slaps her younger sister: I remember a brother that was seriously on my case, those years back. And I had not visit him in his house. And on getting to his house, he had sent his younger sister to go and buy bread or something for me.

You know the sister now; and me, I sat down waiting for the bread. Of a truth, the girl went for too long! As in even myself that was the visitor I was thinking like – just to go and buy drink for visitor? So the moment the girl came back…

Obviously, you know young girls, she saw her friend outside, she forgot or whatever, she just got carried away!

Immediately she entered, the brother confronted her: I sent you since to go and buy mineral for my guest. The next thing he did, he gave the sister a SLAP!

And immediately, I remembered! Because that was one of the things my grandma told me: ‘anybody that beats his sister will beat you!’

… Are you seeing the drama? We call them Red Flags!

If he can slap his own sister, he will beat you one day! And that was how…

They didn’t even teach me, before I carried my legs. I just said ‘Thank you!’ Even the drink I couldn’t even drink it because the girl was crying so much: even the drink I could not drink it. Red Flags!

Extracts from the Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan Osun State Nigeria.

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