NUGGETS FROM DR (MRS) BECKY ENECHE’S TEACHING: GODLY COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE

SINGLES AND MARRIED: WHO SHOULD I GET MARRIED TO?

1. Find someone who is God Fearing – Marry someone who is God Fearing:

When you marry someone who is God fearing, the rules that you established for yourselves in Courtship, becomes easy to OBEY and ADHERE to.

For instance, you say: As long as we are in this Courtship, we are not going to have Premarital sexual relationship – This is our Standard. The day it happens, this relationship is over!

… That was our agreement before me and my husband got married.

If you want this Marriage not to hold, then allow this to happen: then that is the END – Alright?

So you marry a GOD FEARING Person!

2. Marry somebody who has a Complementary Vision for life.

… A Complementary Vision!

Not that you want to serve God FULL TIME, and the Person wants to serve God minimal time.

Not that you want to engage in certain Vocation and the Person wants to engage in another Vocation – That is Dimensionally Opposed.

… There is no how you can do those two (2) Assignments together – Alright?

3. Marry somebody who is Honest – who is REAL.

Don’t marry a FAKE Person – Brother, don’t marry a fake Person; Sister, don’t marry a fake Person.

I’m sorry, this brings us to the issue of appearance now – Eh!

I read a story of somebody – Was it in Malaysia or some other Place that SUED the wife he married.

Because when he woke after the Wedding Day, he said: That woman I’m seeing there is not the woman I married.

What happened? – The Makeup had transformed her. And so when she slept and woke up in the morning (without the Makeup); she was definitely not who he knows!

It was a serious matter – He said he is suing her to COURT – for DAMAGES (laughter!!!)

Some of us women are not real – Everything is FAKE; everything is ADDED on, or some things are ADDED ON!

I wanted to list them: Sisters you know them but unfortunately the Brothers don’t know!

A few of them knows but they hide their head in the sand, like the Ostrich;

… They believed that: If I don’t SEE the danger, then the danger does not EXISTS.

Brothers, please be real to the Person you want to marry. And let the Person also be REAL to you!

You don’t have hair on your head, let him know – Let him be happy to marry you without hairs on your head.

That might be the Attractive Factor about you: Whatever it is, be down to earth – be real!

Can I tell you something: This my hair style is the BEST to my husband.

And he says it in a very funny way (when I finish plaiting it): “I like your Fine, Fine hair.” (Laughter!!)

… You know, the way you say to a little Girl: I like your fine, fine dress; that is how he say it to me!

4. Does she Respect you? Does she Summit to you? Will she be Humble and stay Submissive to you after you are married?

Does the man respect you? Or he talks down at you?

Well, if you carry yourself loosely and he has had everything he needs to have from your body; he can talk to you anyhow, and you can’t blame him.

5. Does he respect your wishes? Or does she respect your wishes?

Are your opinion counted? Or your suggestions?

Already you haven’t married; you make a suggestion and it is thrown out – I mean, it’s discarded?

… These are important things to take note of.

6. Does he encourage you? And does he strive to bring out the best in you?

Or he is in competition with you? Or she is in competition with you?

… These are important things!

7. Does he serve God? Is he obedient to God?

We have already talked about him being Born Again; or she being Born Again – And being God Fearing.

Another thing is: Is he Obedient to God?

For instance, you come into Church, Senior Pastor says: Pray this Prayer everyday or as frequently as you can.

And from Sunday till the next Sunday, he didn’t pick up the Prayer Bulletin to Pray, he didn’t go out for Evangelism, he hasn’t read his Bible throughout the week; she hasn’t done anything in that line – There is no commitment to the things of God!

If you want to marry a Christian – MARRY A CHRISTIAN!

If you want to marry somebody that has no relationship with God; and you are comfortable with that kind of existence, that is fine!

But the issue is: Determine what you are entering into before you enter!

… Not after you are married you come and complain.

8. The next one, some might reject and some might accept: Does he Respect his mother? Does he value his mother?

Some say, ooh! My mother is a witch, my mother is a Witch!

… Then that means she gave birth to a witchlet!

In as much as that cannot be ruled out because we know there are wicked People that exists and People that can kill their own born child and whatever!

What am I driving at here? Is he a Person that has a healthy regard for his family? – Particularly his mother.

Does he respect her Person; or he talks at her anyhow – Disrespect her?

Is he somebody that the mother can say: My son, what you are doing is not totally okay – Can you correct it like this?

… It’s a totally Big Asset.

But on the other hand; if you notice that he is under the CONTROL or manipulative HOLD of his mother or her mother, or her family; that again is another thing to look at twice!

You don’t want to marry a ‘Baby Boy’ – You want to marry a mature man.

Just as you don’t want to marry a ‘Play Boy’ or a Casanova or a Gigolo that wants you for only the money you HAVE!

In the same way you want to marry somebody who has a Healthy RESPECT for the home and for the home Setup.

9. Will he wait for you when you cannot be there? Is he Patient?

If we agree we we are not going to have Premarital relationship: Is he ready to abide by that rule?

Because if he can’t abide by that rule; when you are married and you travel, he won’t wait for you.

Or when you are married and you are indisposed – maybe childbearing or something; He won’t wait for you – He will go out and look for a Lady that to ready at that moment.

You are able to tell how he or she is, by how they are!

… Finally, let me stop with this;

10. Is he Eternity Conscious? Is she Eternity Conscious?

Is he living just for the world and for the Pleasures of this world? Or does he have a consciousness of Eternity?

And Plan to make Heaven, and Plan to be ready for the Rapture?

There are some People that want to go to hell, and want to take others with them – Don’t hang around with such people!

Next time we talk, we will talk about: Some Things to identify.

For instance Brother, you are in a Relationship, the only thing the Sister wants, is MONEY:

Money to do her hair, money to buy a new bag, money to buy a new shoe; money to send to her Uncle, her brother, her sister, her Aunty, her everybody.

You haven’t married, you should build a storey building for her father – without regard of what you have!

You need to analysis it: Are you going to be able to cope with that kind of a Person?

But you know? I discovered something; kai! – MEN!!!

I read a story one day, a young man – He had three (3) Ladies that he was contemplating to marry. So he gave each one of them, Five Thousand US Dollars ($5,000).

… That is like one Point something Million Naira, right (Above #1,000,000)?

So, he gave each one of them, Five Thousand US Dollars ($5,000) – He wanted to use it to test how they will react.

1. The first (1st) one took the money, used half of the money to do a Complete Makeover; got herself a new wardrobe, did her face, hair, did everything. And came out looking – Oh my God, very beautiful!

And then bought a few things for him – New shirt, new this, new that! – To make him over, too.

2. The second (2nd) girl took the money and used ALL the money to shop for him. And picked up few things for herself – She said: My emphasis is you!
3. Then the third (3rd) Girl, took the Five Thousand US Dollars ($5,000) and put it into Stocks and Shares and Bonds and Treasury Bills, and stuffs like that!

And after a short while, she even brought him BACK the original Five Thousand US Dollars ($5,000) and still had more than that Five Thousand US Dollars ($5,000) which she reinvested.

… So they asked the young man, which of them will you marry?

Sisters, which of them do you think he should marry? – The Third (3rd) one!

Alright, thank you – That is your opinion.

…. Brothers, which one will you marry?

Do you know the one they will marry? – The most Beautiful one – the most Flashy one!

1. They are not considering the one that will take care of him and multiply his resources.
2. They are not considering the one that has him in her mind as number one in her mind.

… They are “MORE CONCERNED” at the Most Beautiful one!

… Stand up on your feet!

Brothers, it’s all about how beautiful – In as much as they should be Beautiful.

Don’t marry who you don’t like ooooh!

If you don’t like the way she looks, don’t marry her oooh because she won’t transform.

She can get better but the shape of the nose will remain the shape of the nose!

So like it the way it is! It can be enhanced; so like it – Basic!

But Please, marry somebody who would help you to reach Higher Heights!

Women maturely want to help their men – Did you hear all the women unanimously say he should marry the one that will multiple his money?

… Unanimously, they agreed he should marry who will help him.

But some men just want to marry someone Beautiful – without brains, without conscious for your money.

… May you not MISS IT – AMEN!

If you believe it SHOUT AMEN – AMEN!!!!!

ABOUT THE PREACHER

Dr. (Mrs) Becky Inyangbe Paul Enenche, formerly known as Rebecca (Becky) Inyangbe Ibu, (born October 23rd) is a Nigerian.

She is a trained Medical Doctor but now a Preacher of the Gospel.

She is also a Christian author, Minister, Televangelist, Musician and Educationist.

She is the wife of Dr. Pastor Paul Enenche, the founder and Senior Pastor of Dunamis International Gospel Centre World-wide, with headquarters in Abuja, Federal Capital Territory, Nigeria.

Her Ministry and Ministrations are characterized by a Profound release of the Word of God, Miracles, Signs and Wonders and a Palpable and tangible Presence of God.

Her ever- ready smile laced with words of kindness warms the hearts of those that come across her.

The Benue State-born mother of four (4) has been lauded many times for her modest dress sense – Mostly garbed in tastefully sewn traditional and western attire, it is worthy to note that Dr Becky loves to wear her hair Natural.

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