EPISODE 6: THE PART OF: FEELINGS AND DECISION IN MARRIAGE

Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan, Osun State, Nigeria

The fact that you are beside someone (as a man) you will even feel erection – just because of the way you feel for that person. That is to tell you that you are living.

And this is one of the things I usually tell people; when they ask me about Marital Compatibilities, Sexual compatibility: I say, you are interested in a Sister, all the time your interest: you have been praying (you have been praying, you have been doing everything) – okay?

In the way of the Lord, in Goodness! But all through, there was no day you felt… (you don’t have to touch her). You know, like Pastor was saying it, that by seeing alone!

You didn’t feel any erection, you didn’t FEEL … (Ah, there is problem)! Because Love and Affection; there is a part of it that Naturally, you will FEEL it.

So, it’s Self control that is holding you. Not that you did not feel it!

… Do you understand what am saying?

Not that you did not feel it. So if all the while you don’t feel it – Abeg let us sit down and rearrange. Because one of the things that will help you is – Attraction to that person!

A man was married and was telling me: Actually, she is not my kind of woman.

Ok Sir, tell me your kind of woman? Eh, the one that has hips and boost. And you went to marry a Lepa! Because there is a place of Physical Attraction.

That is why we have the Biological.

The Chemical, is the Emotions (2ce). And the emotion part means there must be an alignment between you and this person!

Your Spirit will draw you to that Person. That is why the person will be at the front.

Peradventure it’s my Brother now, I don’t know if the Sister that is eyeing him is here! But as he is here. And the Sister is at the back, unspoken communication will be going on.

… Do you understand what am saying? Please loosen up now; you are acting too serous. (Laughter)

That must also be there! If that is not there, it’s also a Red Alert.

And of course, the Mental Part! The Mental part is the part where we say ‘Love is a decision’.

You DECIDE to love this person. And when you decide, you say ‘I choose to Love you, WHATEVER it may be, I choose!

And then, when I make that decision, the decision means that I stand by you. It’s not a feeling I fall into. Because if you fall into it, you will fall out of it – Like daddy told us. You fall out!

But when you DECIDE, it’s the decision that makes you say ok, even though I have seen the weaknesses of this person, but I still choose to Love this person – That’s decision!

It’s decision that makes you see the errors and mistakes of the person and you say, because I choose to love you (nitori no feran re ni ooo)!

Or it doesn’t happen that way? It’s because I Love you ooooh!

That’s what decision can do; when it’s not just feeling.

When it is Feeling, the moment that person hurts you, the love will FLY out!

Praise the LORD!

Extracts from the Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode @ Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan Osun State Nigeria.

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