EPISODE 8: SEX IN CHRISTIAN COURTSHIP

Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan, Osun State, Nigeria

I had a Client in my office during the week. And he was telling me that his Pastor was Preaching and talking about ‘No Sex before Marriage’. And that all of you are supposed to remain pure.

And that as he was saying it, everybody was laughing in the Church, because even he himself knew that that about 75% of them were having sex.

That is a Natural Thing for Marriage now; as in this our Generation – You see. The other one time is your own; this you will do it…

And I don’t know if I mentioned it the other time I was around; there was a day I was on Radio. I was on a Radio Program I was invited to speak. And I was talking about Sex, and all these!

And one man called, a Pastor. He called and he said, I want to talk to that woman; that Pastor (Mrs) or what is she called. ‘That all the thing you are saying is nonsense’; that in this time and age, all the problems they have seen in Church is so much! That he, in his own Church, he teaches and he preaches that they must go and have sex before the Marriage.

He called us on a National Radio. He said that the problem that people will now get married finished, they will now be having problem – they are not compatible. So let them know: Are you compatible or not? Before we go ahead!

… The teaching of the world!

And I said to Him, I said Sir, I don’t have a problem with you ‘Testing’ (whatever it is you want to test before the Marriage) but here it is: When, the problem of sex happens after Marriage, who bears the prompt of it? You are out away with your family and your wife, the couples starts suffering for it.

Let me tell you a recent 2019 Research; the Research says to us ‘that every man that has sex with a woman, drops a DNA of his, into her genetics

And that is why you see that couples who have been together for a long time, and have sex regularly; after a while, you will see that the woman begins to look like the man: You say, Ah, they look alike, they look like brother and sister, abi?

It is because the man keeps depositing; every time his sperm gets in there, his DNA is getting into her.

Now, imagine every single man what woman has slept with!

So if this man Test, and it’s not working; the next one Test, and it’s not working, the next one Test! By the time the final man will pick her, what will she be left with?

It’s a lot of pressure! And this what I keep saying to every single Sister (it’s not only Sisters ooh!) I have had a brother who was crying like a baby. He said the Sister (they were Courting) and everybody has agreed in the Church. They have Prayed about it!

But that the Sister said that she is used to doing sex before and now she is not feeling…; and he kept saying ‘let’s hold on, God will help us’. Let’s hold on!

She pressurized him – in fact the word I could use is that she ‘Raped’ him!

This Brother we crying, when he was talking to me. He said he shared it with his friend. His friend said he must be a fool for saying ‘a woman raped you’ – you should enjoy it!

He felt bad with his body, because his body responded! Because at some point, even when he was trying to say NO, am not doing. The Lady kept on caressing, you know, pushing him, and all that!

So he felt disappointed that his penis got erected; I had to explain to him ‘Biology will always be Biology’.

… And I will explain that to you also!

Biology will be Biology; and so it doesn’t mean that your heart was there! And the Bible tells us: “God looks at the HEART.”

The Heart; the Heart! And that is one of the core things you will see – because the only Place where you feel loved is inside your heart.

Extracts from the Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan, Osun State, Nigeria

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