EPISODE 9: MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR A CHILD
Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan, Osun State, Nigeria
A young Lady called me from her school recently. She said one Brother was pressurizing her, telling her how much God told him – she was lusting. And she was also feeling it. She was still a student. This man was a Staff of that school. So that means, he is an Adult!
And this is one other thing; I remember Pastor saying something about a thirteen (13) Years old girl. Marriage is not for a child (anyone below the age of eighteen (18) Years).
So you met this girl: she below eighteen (18) Years. You can’t propose to her – it’s an abuse!
Whether you are crazy or sure; whether God had told you she is the one. The fact that she is still below eighteen (18) Years, you must still keep on pushing – and let love and patience prevail.
Otherwise, it’s an abuse. It’s a pure abuse! If Government catches you, you are gone for it: the present day style of Social Work that’s going on.
Because so many of those young girls who will come – Sixty (60) Years old; he wants to marry me. The part of the brain that is used to make decision, is not fully developed yet until you are aged twenty one (21) Years.
And so I say to Young Girls: you can’t even know who is right. Yes! That’s why we have parents and elders.
If you are not yet twenty one (21) Years, you can’t decide. That’s the Truth!
There are some major life decisions that you cannot make. Am not the one, it’s Biology that says it.
See, because of time let me go on; because sincerely if I break it down for you; in fact, we of African origin…
But you see the reality? The reality is that these little children that we are talking about, it is these so called ‘Adults’ that go and meet them.
Yes, if they allow them to be, these young ones will not be focus on what is not necessary. But when you have a thirty two (32) Years old man pursuing a seventeen (17) Years old Girl, giving her close marking: the girl, she gets to school today, she gets Text Message ‘you know I love you’. She gets home, ‘you know am thinking of you’ – Haba! Brother!!!
Praise the Lord!
Extracts from the Counselling Session With Dr Timi Oyebode At Bethel Institute of Biblical Research Singles Summit, Gbongan, Osun State, Nigeria
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