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WELCOME COMMENTS FROM TOLU ALABI

Hello today, this is Father’s Day Special and I will like to say “Happy Father’s Day” everyone out there.

And to the viewers that are joining us, I want to say “Happy Father’s Day” to you.

The Bible says: This is the day that the Lord has made and I will rejoice and be glad in It.

I am so excited about today. I am super excited about today.

Father’s Day is a very Special Day for so many People, like they always say about girls particularly love their fathers.

I didnt have the privilege of having a Biological Father and it means a lot to me.

I remembered when I was growing up, I will always imagine that my father will come. I always feel like middle School but in Nigeria it is actually a Secondary School.

And then we have a very big school and the gate is really far from classes.

I will always stand looking at the gate and always be expecting that one day my father will come and he will see me from afar, running towards me and I running towards him.

He will lift me up and he will carry me. He will carry me and lift me up. I was always hoping for that.

I spend five (5) years in Secondary School but that never happened.

But the beautiful part is I had met with Jesus and He was just a father that i have always wanted.

And He is a wonderful Father to me till today.

I have got another father in the house and i am so excited.

I want to thank you for all the People that have joined right now – It is going to be wonderful right today.

Hello viewers out there you are welcome to Relationship Realities with Tolu Alabi.

Today on Life and Relationship Realities; we have a very important Guest – He is very important to me because he is my Pastor, he is my Mentor for several years. He is the husband of a beautiful woman of God. He is a committed father with children and he is the Senior Pastor of Daystar Christian Centre in Oregun, Lagos State, Nigeria.

He is also the president of Sam Adeyemi Ministry.

Let me say that Daystar is a Church that raise “Role Models” – Like they are very good, the Church is very good.

That is my home Church.

He is very good at raising “Role Models”, Leaders and off course Rev. Sam Adeyemi has just add to his name a “Doctorate Degree in Leadership”.

I met this wonderful man of God several years ago.

He has impacted my life, He has impacted my Ministry.

And I love the humility about him. I love the simplicity about him. I love the fact that he is one of the leaders that will open up himself for young people to enjoy the same kind of success.

Viewers help me welcome my Mentor, my Pastor – Rev (Dr) Sam Adeyemi.

You are welcome sir.

TOLU ALABI’S QUESTION (1)

Who is a “Role Model father”? – What are his responsibilities towards his children? How do we recognize a “Role Model father”?

Please explain that to us sir.

REV. SAM ADEYEMI’S RESPONSE (1)

Thank you very much for having me on the Program.

I like to wish all father’s, a happy Father’s Day.

The Father’s Role is inherently by design a role modelling one.

In the sense that the basic objective in Parenting is grooming human beings that will add value to our world, that will make our world a better place.

It means that a Father should be someone that has Vision, that sees the Possibility of the world becoming a better Place, that is already contributing to making it a better Place and that is grooming People that will make it a better Place.

Two basic requirements:

1. Character
2. Competence

On the Character side, a father is got to have sound vibes.

Not just teach the children but lead them in the Principle of love because that is what Jesus Christ said.

If you sum up everything, it is in the word LOVE.

A “Role Model Father” – I meant to be a loving father.

God is the “Ultimate Father” and what we do we know about him? – Love.

So the Bible tells us that God is Love. He is love Personified.

A “Role Model Father” is going to be a “Loving Person”, Caring Person, and a Teacher, an Instructor in the ways of God and in the values of God.

Ultimately I will tell you one thing, the Modelling is the big Part of it and of course the other Part is the Competence part.

Which means that while we have “Good Character” to make the world a better Place, you have got to have skills.

I believed that a Father should have skills.

Expertise is one Particular area for adding value and for Solving Problem.

Once we are concious of that fact, Modelling that to our children, then we are deliberate in cultivating the same Values and in guiding them in making decisions now as they make progress through life.

TOLU ALABI’S RESPONSE TO QUESTION 1 ANSWERED (BY REV. SAM ADEYEMI)

That was really amazing about what a “Role Model Father” is.

Love between husband and wife and children is very important. That was really Powerful sir.

Listen to the audio here: The Role Model Father – Tolu Alabis Life And Relationship Realities With Rev. Sam Adeyemi

TOLU ALABI’S QUESTION (2)

How important is it for husband and wife to work together to raise Godly and responsible children in being a Role Model, connect with father, mother loving each other in a family?

How can they work together to build responsible children in their society and in the Body of Christ?

REV. SAM ADEYEMI RESPONSE (2)

It is important for the father and the mother to work together in raising children and it is team work.

In the first Place, they say opposite attract.

Of course I mean what the father has the mother doesn’t have and what the mother has, the father doesn’t have – You bring the strength together in raising the children.
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The father’s Logic comes in the mother’s Intuition, comes in both side have their strength.

I actually want to appeal to Parents that one major reason why we had to overcome the challenges of Marriage is because of those children we are Grooming.

Two People coming together, raised from two different background; Two People from two different genders with two cultural background and sometimes different Social Classes.

This is a mix that makes the marriage relationship challenging.

When we look at the overall Vision, it is worth the effort absolutely, so we should do everything Possible.

You just got to be someone that forgives on a daily basis, someone that can love on a daily basis.

And once the Parent love each other, that is the Major Part of it and then together will love the children and together will teach them, will discipline together.

… It is Team Work.

When one Person is missing – It is one sided, it has its own huge effect.

TOLU ALABI’S RESPONSE TO QUESTION 2 ANSWERED (BY REV. SAM ADEYEMI)

… So team work – It is really amazing that team work between the father and the mother….*

May God help all couples to always have team work. That was amazing sir.

TOLU ALABI’S QUESTION (3)

Some father’s are absent in the life of their children and some fathers are abusive to their children.

Some are absent – It could be for so many reasons but some are also abusive to their children.

They are abusive emotionally, they are abusive Physically, they are abusive Psychologically to their children.

What can you say to such father and what can you also say to such “Traumatized Children” that are going through such abuse from their fathers?

REV. SAM ADEYEMI RESPONSE (3)

If a father has had a turbulence upbringing the amazing thing that happens usually, they are angry maybe with the Parents that was abusive or whoever the authority figure was especially the Parent.

And then they grow up with that anger and don’t realise that it has fallen as a seed in their own heart and bears fruit.

So when they find themselves in this scenario by default sincerely speaking what was done to them in childhood then come out, and they do exactly the same thing.

It is a Puzzling thing to many People like many men that saw their father abuse their mother and were very angry with their fathers.

They don’t realised when it is that they begin to abuse their own wives.

The way to break that cycle is Forgiveness. The way to break the cycle is to forgive whoever it was that abused us.

I am going to say that to the father’s because even you may not like what it is you are doing – Don’t continue the cycle, please break it.

You don’t want to do this to your kids because we father’s actually leave legacies.

That is one of the basic thing fathers do – You leave a legacy, you think generation ahead.

There are certain things you tell yourself must stop here.

When God calls you like He called Abraham and blessed you, you start a New Generation, then you lay a New Foundation.

So you say these things stop here.

And if you have been abusing your own children already it is time for you to ask them for forgiveness – Be humble enough.

Remember what you are doing this is to break a Cycle and for the children.

What I said earlier also applies – Forgive, so that you destroy that cycle and you don’t let that thing come into your own adulthood and hurt you.

TOLU ALABI’S RESPONSE TO QUESTION 3 ANSWERED (BY REV. SAM ADEYEMI)

Thank you so much sir. That was really Powerful. Don’t continue the Cycle. That is a Powerful one right there.

TOLU ALABI’S QUESTION (4)

Some father’s are hurting because of Financial Failure and other reasons.

How can those fathers bounce back from failure to attain Success to become a Role Model?

How can they bounce back, not about siting down in the failure because it is going to affect their behavior to their children?

How can such fathers bounce back? – This is Covid-19, a lot of things have happened , a lot of People have gotten into situation that they Probably didn’t bargain for because they didn’t know that things like this was going to happen.

Some father’s have businesses that are struggling to survive right now – So this is like a trying time.

So, for father’s that are head of family, father’s that are Providing for their children – Some don’t even have a job right now as we speak, but how can they bounce back so that the whole family does not suffer because of that?

REV. SAM ADEYEMI RESPONSE (4)

I will tell you that lossing the Capacity to take care of yourself and family financially; hit really hard at men.

I think because a man’s esteem is tied to his ability to take care of his family.

I want to speak to us men and to remind us that we should not Play God’s Role in our lives.

We are not our “Own Providers”; we are not our “Own Helper” – God is.

The Bible says that God is Faithful and that He will not allow us to be tempted beyond what we are able to bear..

Jesus did not Promise us a life without trial but He Promised to be with us when we go through them and He said that He is giving us Victory.

If it came, God allows it. If God allowed it we can handle it.

The most important fight is for Attitude, Mental fight, Spiritual warfare is in the Mind.

That we can take what God said, the Vision that He gave us, the Promises He gave us and use them to fight in times like these.

Let me remind you what David did in 1 Samuel 30 – When he went out with his band of soldiers.

They came back to Ziklag and the Place has been burnt down. All their wives and children and all their goods have been packed away by the Band of Invaders.

And the Bible says, David and his men wept all night.

So it is ok to grieve because they just lost something but cut it short because the Bible says in 1 Samuel 30:6 that David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.

As long as they were crying, nothing happened.

Infact the Bible says The men spoke about stoning david.

It is only bad ideas we get when you are on a frequency of sorrow and sadness.

David encouraged himself, he switched to the Positive.

How?

Just going back memory lane – The same God that helped him before; He will help him again this time.

The moment he switched to the Positive, the idea began to come – He said bring the ephod.

He Prayed, Lord should I go after them, will I recover all?

Instantly God told him: Pursue them, you will overtake them, you will recover everything.

And he did, all of them got their wives back and all their children back.

They got all the goods back with more.

So, i just want to say to you things will change for the better. And it will even be more Glorious than it was before – So be encouraged.

TOLU ALABI’S RESPONSE TO QUESTION 4 ANSWERED (BY REV. SAM ADEYEMI)

That was great, to say that fathers don’t keep crying and I will say to mother too we shouldn’t keep crying.

We should get back and have ideas on how to move forward and definitely sir, I’m sure it is not the time to blame one another like you said. It is time to stop crying, stop complaining and see how God want to lead us to get back and be better than where we started.

TOLU ALABI’S QUESTION (5)

Please can you tell us some of your Challenges and Success Story of being a Role Model Father, husband despite your work load.

I know you very well sir, you are a very busy Person. So, how have you been able to raise your own children?

What are the things you had to go through and how did you overcome?

REV. SAM ADEYEMI RESPONSE (5)

Being husband and a father, I will be honest with you; i wasn’t Prepared enough.

When you get your first child and you are experimenting; this was what happened when the children were young.

First as a husband, my first child was the fact that I was a workerholic. I was working too much and i didn’t realised that was the issue.

And it was after our honeymoon when I resumed work that i was finding it difficult to pull my myself away from the office – I was getting home late.

That was when i knew there was a Problem and I had to deal with it.

But with time, i have been able to switch my Values.

If I tell you what I do now. I get my diary for the Year – I usually buy it mid year. I buy the diary for the next year.

The first date can go into my diary are family date: All the birthdays, all the Vacations, all the kids school dates, resumption, all the breaks. – Everything in there before anything that has to do with work goes into my diary.

So, that was my Challenge.

My being a husband, being a father, i was gone every night Preaching and was coming home late like 11pm and the kids were asleep – And I was doing this Practically everyday.

And I thought something is wrong here. Something is not adding up.

I roll back to the experience with my Parent and I said that most of the days my Parent were there in the evenings – We watch TV together, crack jokes together, they told stories.

I just switched it and i tell you, i have never regretted. The work did not go down.

TOLU ALABI’S RESPONSE TO QUESTION 5 ANSWERED (BY REV. SAM ADEYEMI)

The work did not go down.

Wow! – That was Powerful. And i really have just learnt a lot right now about balancing the work with family.

I mean whether we are working, because even if we having a job, truly sir if anything happens to anybody the job is going to go on but the family is a legacy that we keep forever.

That was really Powerful. That was a “Powerful Nugget” there sir about putting the family first.

I think I got that putting the family first. That was an amazing one.

Thank you so much for your wealth of wisdom and that Nugget.

Thank you so much.

TOLU ALABI’S QUESTION (6)

The Bible says in the book of Proverbs that: A man leaves inheritance for his children’s children.

What can you say to fathers based on that Scripture about leaving Legacy.

Leaving Inheritance for your children – So what is the correlation between fatherhood and finance, like money, asset and all of those things? What is the correlation between a father and finance?

Are they together? Are they separated?

Is money not needed for a father to be able to to what he is doing well? What can you say to us about that Scripture sir?

REV. SAM ADEYEMI’S RESPONSE (6)

Fatherhood and Finance

You know generally, like I said earlier on; fathers leave Legacy.

That is what Proverbs 13:22 tells us – Leaving an inheritance.

When you have the blessings of Abraham on you, Inheritance for you actually goes beyond money.

Inheritance goes to first your “Covenant with God” – That is the one thing that can best guarantee God will be with your children when you are gone.

I usually draw this illustration from Genesis 26.

In Genesis 13 there was a famine. End of Gen 12 and 13; there was a famine.

And Abraham went down to Egypt, he Prospered there.

When Abraham was dying he gave everything he had to Isaac.

Genesis 26 – There was another famine and the Bible states it clearly that it was different from the one in the days of Abraham.

Isaac was about to do exactly what his father did – He was going down to Egypt when God told him to stop in Philistine.

To stop at Gerar and God told him just obey my voice.

Your father obeyed me and because of that he was blessed – I am blessing him.

Just stay here, he did.

That is why we read later in the Passage that he sowed in that land that same Year and that he reap one hundred (100) folds.

So, even though the famine wiped out the material wealth that his father gave him, the famine can never wipe out the Covenant.

It can never wiped out the Promise.

God blessed Isaac, he Prospered him just like his father.

Remember there was another famine in the days of Joseph and Jacob together.

And that it was Joseph (Great grandson of Abraham) that saved Practically the whole world from that famine.

Father, first let your finances be built on the Covenant you have with God – It won’t fail you.

If you obey His commandments He is going to bless you, He is going to Prosper you.

Make sure your children also have that Covenant with God.

And then like the Bible says: As God Prospered you, you are going to have a Plan.

Give them the basic education you can.

Sincerely, that is more important than Material Wealth because not all of us are going to live very long.

Dying at ninety five (95), maybe your children are in their sixty’s (60’s), what do they want to do with your money when they already have children, grandchildren and they are Prosperous.

So, you want to give them good foundation, a good education, skills so they can Prosper on their own and Solid Values.

So, that is why the wealth is actually built for the children’s children.

TOLU ALABI’S RESPONSE TO QUESTION 6 ANSWERED (BY REV. SAM ADEYEMI)

That was powerful, wow!

Thank you so much sir. Yes!, the children’s children, most times we just kind of think that yes! We got to make all the money.

That was Profound sir – Giving Good education, doing what you can do today. it not about not careful today and then you are like I am investing against tomorrow.

I think tomorrow starts from today – Based on what you have said sir.

Tomorrow actually starts from today. Give Good education, give Values. It is not only about finance. It is not only about money – It is actually the Value that you give.

That is why you have to be there for your children because if you are absent or abusive, how do you build Values?

Even if you are a single dad or your children are somewhere else, maybe with your ex or something. You should also be able to get involve in their life and give them Good Values.

CONCLUSION BY TOLU ALABI

Thank you so much sir.

That was really amazing and so those are the questions I’m asking you today sir.

But there is something very important; I really want you to do.

Sir, Please I want you to Pray for all our fathers.

There is something that you always say to me, you say: The Grace that have worked for me, will come for you.

And I have been seeing that Grace in my life.

I want you to Pray as a father, as a Man of God, as a Prophet in this Generation.

I want you to say a Word of Prayer for everyone that is watching or reading now on the Label of DMC.

REV. SAM ADEYEMI PRAYS FOR EVERYONE

I Pray in Jesus Name for every father, Grace, Wisdom, the Power of God, Spiritual Authority to displace territorial spirit, take over territories.

The blessings of Abraham that I call father of many Nations and I declare on your Seed, the families of the Earth will be blessed.

No one that comes from your lineage will be a liability in this world. They will be asset in Jesus Name – Amen.

TOLU ALABI WORDS OF APPRECIATIONS

Thank you very much sir.

That was amazing. I am really honoured to have you and so everyone that is watching or that have listened to you or reading now on the Label of DMC.

You are a Man of God that is highly respected.

And so we appreciate you.

I believe we are going to be having you at some Point.

Thank you so much sir.

And our greetings to your beautiful wife: Pastor (Mrs) Adenike Adeyemi – She is a wonderful Woman of God and to your lovely children, we really appreciate you sir.

Thank you so much for coming, we look forward to having you again.

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NUGGETS FROM REVEREND SAM ADEYEMI’S TEACHING: HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE – PART 1

Whenever you measure yourself against other People, just remember that you are measuring yourself against their Strength.

And if you focus on your weaknesses, you compare your weakness with their Strength, you will always come short.

… So, everybody has their Strength!

I found it revolutionary when I realised that there are different kinds of intelligences – I found it Revolutionary and it helped me in Parenting.

I found out that for the most Part of the Contents of the Academic Curriculum only measures “Academic Intelligence”.

Amazing! – It measures only the ability to deal with Numbers and Verbal Intelligence or Linguistic Intelligence.

That is what the Academy can measures.

And I found out that there are different kinds of Intelligence:

1. We have Kinetics Energy or Kinetics Intelligence which is what is demonstrated by People in Sports and Athletics.

There is a connection between their brains and their bodies – It is unique and they are able to think and to move their bodies.

2. And we have Spatial Intelligence.

People are able to Draw, to do Graphics and so on.

… So, different kinds of Intelligence.

Now, when you put someone with Kinetic Intelligence in an Academic Environment – If the Person is not doing well in class but is doing very well in Sports; it is amazing how sometimes the Person is described as a dullard because the Person with Kinetic Intelligence is being measured by Academics Parameters.

There was a Particular scenario like that where during break when all the students were out Playing in the field and doing all kinds of Sports.

This young boy who was not doing too well in his Academics was made to sit in class to do Academic Work during the time when his colleagues were doing the things that he excelled in.

A “Change of School” helped him quite a bit because then he was moved to a New School that some kids are best in Sports even though they were not too Good in their Academics; he excelled and he did well in Sports which he loved.

He now did better in his Academics and ultimately he was able to win Scholarship in the University on the basis of the Sports where he excelled.

Now, some of us have escaped into Adulthood without these issues been resolved at all.

All of our lives, we have being measured by Parameters that can only defined our Weakness and not our Strength – And we defined ourselves also that way.

Your Genius is there waiting to find Expressions!

I am encouraging that:

1. You should focus on your Strength.
2. Define your Strength.
3. Focus on what is Positive about you.

Maybe, People have told you all your life that you talk too much; that you talk all the time, you talk non stop and that shows that there is something wrong with you.

I bet to disagree.

If you can talk that much and they can’t, it is an indication that that is where your Strength is!

… It is impossible to talk too much – Yes, but it is Possible to talk a lot and not make sense.

Absolutely Yes!

So, that is your Strength – You are encouraged to celebrate it and focus on it.

Now, don’t focus on the “Wrong Narratives” which is Criticism.

Shake the Narratives off and turn it into a “Recognized Strength” that it is – It will help your Confidence!

You may have been listening to the “Wrong People” for a long time – It is time for you to hear the “Right Voice”!

They may have told you that you are too quiet and you don’t talk – There is nothing like that.

Human beings are created to be different – Your being quite and having to think is a Strength.

… That is where your Genius is – Find it and Sharpen it.

And if you can’t find anybody around you to encourage you, you too can encourage yourself – Brush off all those “Negative labels” that has been Placed on you.

Some People says: You like to Play too much – But who knows; see how huge the Entertainment Industry is?

People wants Fun, People needs to Relax, People needs Recreation and some People are earning Millions and Millions Providing Fun or Providing Entertainment for People.

So, what somebody thinks is wrong is right for somebody else!

It is up to you to decide – But I’m saying that it is your Choice.

Choose to focus on the Positives in your life because that is where your Genius is!

Now, let us say that you enrolled for examination and you failed nine (9) Subjects or nine (9) Courses and you got an “A” in only one (1) – That is an Indication.

Now, Human Nature will focus your attention in the nine (9) Subjects or Courses that you failed. But your genius is trying to find its expression through that one (1) where you an “A”.

I’m saying if you want to have Confidence, it is Good you shift your thinking and your life to rest on that area – It may seems so small to you, it may seems so narrow to you but you build your “Personal Narratives” on the Positive about your life.

Focus on your Strength and find your Genius – The Place where you achieve results more easily, where you make as much efforts as other People make and you achieve “Extra Ordinary Results; that is Pointing you to something.

… When you function there, you will find out that you have a lot of Confidence!

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ABOUT THE SPEAKER

Reverend Sam ADEYEMI is the Senior Pastor, Daystar Christian Centre.

He is also the President of Success Power International, an NGO that among others things specializes in Organizing Financial, Leadership and Motivational Seminars and is President of Daystar Leadership Academy, a leadership School for Business Owners and Ministers of the Gospel.

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NUGGETS FROM REVEREND SAM ADEYEMI’S TEACHING: HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE – PART 1

1. To build Confidence, I encouraged you to build your Character.
2. I encouraged you to Develop:

I. “Strong Values” – Very important.

II. “Set Standards” for Yourself – Standard of behavior because I have realized that Negative Behaviours defeat our Sense of Confidence. It affect the way we feel about ourselves.

So, build Character, Strengthen your Character, Choose to be Honest, Choose to be Trustworthy, Choose to have Integrity.

And that simply means: What you “SAY” aligns with what you “DO” – Who you are in Private aligns with who you are in Public.

I want to encourage you that we should build our Character.

… And do you know how it is?

It functions like the Muscles – It Strengthens day after day because we Human Beings are Creature of Habits.

So, we can Strengthen our Character daily by constantly building Values.

1. So, Honesty is a Value for example; Generosity is a Value – We can subscribe to those Values.
2. Service is a Value.

Helping to meet People’s Needs, helping to Solving People’s Problem – These are Powerful Values.

3. Love is Powerful.

Choosing to love People generally; to care for People; to empathise with People – That builds Confidence.

So, “Strong Values” very Critical.

Have “Strong Values” Primarily Love because those Values influence our behaviour; they help our Decision Making Process.

Sometimes sincerely speaking, we have only a few split seconds to make our Decision.

Somebody once said: The Natural Human Instinct is to help the Person back. But when you have the “Strong Value” of Love, you know that forgiveness has to Prevail over the desire for Revenge.

Not revenging sometimes make us look weak but sincerely speaking when you write off someone’s Debt; that Emotional Debt, when you forgive someone like that – You feel Good on the inside.

It Strengthens your Feelings – It is a Positive Feelings that it gives you. It Strengthens your Results, Strengthens your Characters.

So, build your Character – It is absolutely Critical to the Process of “Building Confidence”.

The other important thing here is: For you to build your Competence, your Capacity to work and to Solve Problems.

… It helps your Confidence!

One of the things that defeat confidence the most on this Planet is:

1. For you to want to do something and you fail at it.
2. For you not to be Good at it especially if you have been trained and you have been employed for it and you have been Paid for it.

… For you not to be able to do it will defeat your “Self Esteem”.

So, Skillfulness build Esteem for you to be able to do something and for you to be able to do it well.

My first car, you know after sometimes developed a fault. I wasn’t sure exactly what it was. It was a puzzle and this is what happened.

When I would drive on highway, whenever I wanted to overtake another vehicle. At the Point of accelerating, I mean the sound of the engine would just go down and it would stop moving.

The accelerator didn’t work anymore.

I had to slow down and the car won’t just pick up and run.

I would had to Park by the roadside – Put the engine off, wait a few minutes, start it all over again before it would start and move.

This thing took Months and Months because I took it to the Mechanics; he did something to it but it didn’t work – It took Months.

One day, the car stopped in our neighborhood. We Pushed it to the house.

So, my Mechanics came to look at it.

And the way he was speaking obviously he didn’t know what to do.

I could see it, I could hear it – He wasn’t sure what to do but he still recommended for me to buy some Parts.

And it happened that there is a friend that is using exactly the same kind of car.

When I called him, he said oh my Mechanics is very Good. If you don’t mind I will bring him tomorrow morning.

When my friend’s Mechanics arrived, he knew exactly what to do.

Within ten (10) minutes, my car was up and functioning well.

… It is amazing and I haven’t forgotten it.

It has been quite some Years now and it was like Magic.

… He knew the job, he knew what he was doing.

What I am saying here is: Competence on your Job; Skillfulness on your Job; Expertise on your Job will build your Confidence!

I will like to say this to you: If you are a Student studying right now, do the reading well – The Good Grades will help your Confidence!

And some People were Gifted for Academics – We have got to accept that.

They don’t work as much as we do, yet they get the highest mark – It is a Function of their Gift.

… So, if you need to Put in hard work, Put in your hard work to get the Good Grades – It will help your Self Esteem!

If you want to build your Confidence:

1. Function in the Areas of your Gifting.
2. Align your Career with your Strength.

… Your strength will help you to Stand Well.

… It does!

So, you should just bear it in mind that your Talent is given to you in “Raw Form”.

1. It is to be Refined.
2. It needs to be Cultivated.
3. It needs to be Developed.

The more you develop your Talent, the more you develop your Gift and the easier it is for you to Succeed.

DMC EDITORIAL NOTE:

1. We appreciate us all for keeping up with us since the Commencement of this Series: “HOW TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE”. We have successful rolled out Parts 1 and 2 as at date. Kindly keep it locked down here in the next two (2) Fridays for the outstanding Parts 3 and 4!
2. We are sure Poised as a Progressive Team to update us Spiritually and Motivationally as our Vision Stands Out!

ABOUT THE SPEAKER

Reverend Sam ADEYEMI is the Senior Pastor, Daystar Christian Centre.

He is also the President of Success Power International, an NGO that among others things specializes in Organizing Financial, Leadership and Motivational Seminars and is President of Daystar Leadership Academy, a leadership School for Business Owners and Ministers of the Gospel.

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Yours Always,

MOSES DURODOLA, TITILAYOMI AJAYI AND AYODELE OLALEYE.
© DMC 2020.

I once mentioned earlier on that when I have the surge for income, what took the money away from me was demand from People that are very urgent and important.

I realized that many of us are mismanaging our resources because of that reason because it sound legitimate – I mean somebody didn’t have this, somebody didn’t have that, this Person has this problem, that one had this problem and you can find Scriptural Specifications for that for spending all your money, giving out to other People.

It took God to help me resolve that because I was Permanently carrying guilt around for not solving other People’s Problem.

Until one day the Holy Spirit said to me: You are Pretending as if your middle name is El-Shaddai.

… You want to solve everybody’s Problem, you want to solve my right in People’s life?

He said if you Pretend to be El-Shaddai, your name is “I shall die”.

I’m serious because I was played with guilt all the time for not solving People’s Problem but God was trying to remind me you are not God – Let me Play my role in People’s life.

He said: Infact, there are People I’m trying to teach to trust Me – They can’t trust Me, they can’t wait for Me, they will always look for a shortcut.

I (God) didn’t want you to beg anybody but they can hold themselves back and I’m trying to train them to trust Me.

He said when you step in when I’m trying to help somebody, you didn’t help them, you frustrated their Growth Process.

… He (God) said: Learn to hear from Me before you People before you give the money out.

I say: Oh! Oh!! Oh!!!

It is not every Giving that you get Blessed for!

If you are to frustrate God’s Purpose for Giving, don’t expect Him to bless you.

So, I’m trying to help someone; don’t walk around with guilt all over the Place because what happens is this: That when you have someone who is doing fairly well and the Person can’t have the opportunity to build anything, to save, to invest and to increase their capacity; eventually that Person may come down to the same level with anybody else he or she is helping.

So, we have what we called “Crab Technology” – That is an invention but something I have proven that: If you throw ten (10) crabs into one basket, none of them will come out. When one is trying to come out, one will pull the leg.

Ok, let me describe it another way: In our environment, we have the Culture of “Mutual Improvishment” because we have a way of making wealthy People to feel guilty for not spending all their money on us – Hallelujah!!!

A lot of Undisciplined People who we visit give the result of their indiscipline to someone who through discipline built their wealth.

Let me say this: If you will ever build wealth:

1. You must spend less than you earn.
2. You must be Disciplined.
3. You must exercise Self Control.

… There is no other way to go about it – That is what my damn illustration is all about.

You have to limit the flow, spend less than you earn – Other than that, it won’t work.

Sir, you can’t build wealth if you don’t spend less than you earn.

Now, some People are going to wrestle with that statement: Spend less than you earn- when what I earn is not even enough, is not up to what I spend?.

Some People have a Philosophy whether it’s somebody else own or your own, the important thing is for you not to lack any money at any particular time.

Some People borrow shamelessly – To them, the important thing is to have money to spend.

You know we can teach “Money Management Skills” but “Money Spending Skills” can’t be taught. Everybody has autonomy for that.

You know that some People’s attitude about money is for spending.

Money is for spending, what else do you do with money if not for spending?

There are many People that come around wealthy People and they wonder what the Problem is with them – How can you have the money and not spend it?

“E na kini yi” (Meaning spend this thing) – What is it for?

You remembered the “Juju” Musician (A brand of Music common among Youruba People in Nigeria) who sang the song that: “People who have money and they don’t enjoy it is up to you. You have the money, you won’t enjoy it.”

You see what Poor People don’t realised is that: It was that Discipline, it was that Control, that allowed People to build up to the Point where you call it wealth.

Spending, some People don’t spend what they get, they spend more than than they get – You must spend less!

So, what if the money is not enough?

That is what we are saying – It will never be enough.

The only way to then turn the thing around is to save some – Save ten percent (10%).

If one thousand Naira (#1000) is not enough then nine hundred Naira (#900) won’t be enough.

You understand what you mean: What is the difference between nine hundred naira (#900) and one thousand naira (#1000)?

The one thousand naira (#1000) is not enough, why don’t you take a little bit of one thousand naira (#1000) and use it to fulfil a Principle that will turn your life around.

That is what we are saying.

If you can’t save ten percent (10%), save five percent (5%).

Joseph told Pharaoh famine is coming, the bad time are coming ahead; let us take the fifth (5th) Part – The fifth (5th) Part is twenty percent (20%). Let us save twenty percent (20%).

The Season of Abundance is here, the first seven (7) Years – It is the Year of Plenty. So, let us save the surplus.

But many People don’t think like that – You must curb your appetite if you want to grow wealth.

And I know it is difficult sometimes when you live in a Culture that is built on Consumption and especially when People are trying to impress themselves.

You know how can we organise a wedding ceremony in our family and you know you will kill five (5) cows. You know or you spend a lot of money and People won’t hear about it. We can’t do something in a secret with our status in the society? – Your status!!!.

That is your problem, ok.

There are a lot of People who get married around and as soon as they begin the honeymoon, they have migraine – They tried to impress People.

You have to deal with all of that and stop impressing People.

… You can’t spent more than you earn! – You must spend less.

Do the Budget and use that Budget to control your spending.

But how can they have that ceremony?

You know for every ceremony for example burial (Every ceremony); don’t you buy some dress – They will hear that I’m the only one who is not in the same thing as everybody else?

So, anybody who is angry that you are not wearing the same dress with them should buy you one.

When I began to have Financial Mentors, those were the things I learnt.

One of my Mentor said to me: I have been hard on myself, it has Paid me.

… With that I also has learnt that.

1 Corinthians 6:12 says: All things are lawful unto me but all things are not expedient, all things are lawful for me but I will not be brought down under the power of any.

You have got to cut your appetite. You have to spend less than you earn and not trying to impress people and don’t try to live up to the society’s Standard of definition of Success.

You say, Oh, this is your status!

You know there is a law that is called Parkinson’s Law – Which states that: Expenses will always rise to meet Income.

… Once your income goes up, get ready, is a law.

The moment you get that “Pay Increase” and you are walking through the supermarket, the item there will talk to you and reminds you the last time you came here you could not afford me. Now you can buy me. Buy me now, you have the capacity and you need to put poverty to shame, you need to proof something to yourself that your level has changed.

And in a bit to proof something, you will spend money and there will be nothing to show for your Payment.

Some of us need to stop borrowing, stop owing.

It has become a habit that has becomes a weakness and you need to stop it because you are spending than you earn.

You remember proverbs 21:20 – There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the Wise but a foolish man spendeth it up.

Whatever your excuses: The money is not enough, you spend everything, he said you are a fool.

I know that is hard!

The first time I heard it that is how I felt like that.

It was a Seminar – The Minister spoke for just ten (10) Minutes with one (1) Verse.

… He said If you spend everything, you are a fool.

I said “Ah, Ah” – Take it easy, common.

It is not as bad as that.

What if the money is not enough?

As if he heard what I was saying; he said: I know some of you are saying what if the money is not enough?

The reason why you are saying that is because the Money is not enough.

He said I will tell you one thing, even where God has helped us to is because we don’t spend everything even when the Money is not enough, we always have Balance Carry Forward (B/F).

So, it is not because the money is not enough that you are spending everything, you are spending everything because your “Wisdom Pipe” is blocked.

Oh my God!

It was getting worse for me – It was like somebody took a pipe and hit my head with it.

Hey!. What are you talking about? – I didn’t say it.

Solomon said it: that is what the Scripture says.

… I’m telling you as an individual, don’t spend everything.

And then you can’t give what you don’t have.

If you don’t develop those Management Skills, what will you do when you become a Manager?

DMC EDITORIALS

A derivative of Parkinson’s Law is that expenditures rise to meet income. As you earn more money, your needs increase and you end up spending more money. Therefore, in order to succeed financially, you need to break Parkinson’s law when it comes to money.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Reverend Sam ADEYEMI is the Senior Pastor, Daystar Christian Centre.

He is also the President of Success Power International, an NGO that among others things specializes in Organizing Financial, Leadership and Motivational Seminars and is President of Daystar Leadership Academy, a leadership School for Business Owners and Ministers of the Gospel.

DISCOVERY MEDIA CREW, REACHING OUT TO THE WORLD THROUGH THE POWER OF THE GOSPEL!

Yours Always

MOSES DURODOLA, TITILAYOMI AJAYI AND AYODELE OLALEYE
DISCOVERY MEDIA CREW
© DMC 2020

You and I are “Living Magnets”- We have the Capacity to attract People, to attract Opportunities, to attract Material Resources; to attract Financial Resources.

If you Change, your circumstances will Change; if you Change, People’s Attitude towards you will Change; if you Change, opportunities will show up for you and if you Change, resources will move in your direction.

Let me ask a Question: If a Magnet cannot attract an Object; what do you do to make it possible for the Magnet to attract an Object?

Do you fiddle with the Object?

If that is your Strategy; the only thing that you can do to the Object is to reduce its size.

… And that is the approach that many people have to Life.

When they cannot attract anything: They reduce the sizes of their Vision; they reduce their Dreams; they reduce their Goals; they reduce their Aspirations.

When they see that they cannot achieve some things in Business; cannot achieve some things in Life; they reduce the sizes of their Dreams.

Many People reduces the sizes of their Plans especially with Finances just because they tried a little and found out that they couldn’t achieve a Particular Goal.

But let us look at it: I WILL RATHER PUT MORE POWER IN THE MAGNET!

When you make the Magnet more Powerful; it will have the Capacity to attract today what it could not attract yesterday.

To put more Power in your Magnet, let us look again at the Magnet!

The Magnet has certain Properties in it that has the Capacity to attract.

The Question for me is: What are the Properties in you and me that gives us the Capacity to attract?

… They are your Thoughts and your Feelings! – This is very important: Your Thoughts and your Feelings.

Your Thoughts makes you a Magnet; your Feelings makes you a Magnet.

You see; you will always attract to yourself the Materials Equivalent of your “Most Dominant Thoughts!

Your Thoughts and your Emotions combined together to create what we call “The Magnetic Field” around your Life.

… Every Magnets has what we called: “THE MAGNETIC FIELD “.

When it throws out Energy – That Attractive Energy, that Power of Attraction; it goes only as far and it is in the radius which we called “Magnetic Field”.

Round your Life right now; there is a “Magnetic Field” – There are People, there are Objects, there are circumstances, there are opportunities within the range of that “Magnetic Field”.

… Your Thoughts makes you a Magnet!

Remember also that when a Magnet radiates Energy; it has the Capacity to attract; it has the Capacity to Repel.

Your Thoughts and your Emotions determines to a large extent who and what you have the Capacity to attract and who and what you have the Capacity to Repel.

Now this is very important:

I’m suggesting now therefore that you can Change what you have the Capacity to attract just by Changing your Thoughts.

… Your Thoughts are very, very Powerful!

When you Change your Thoughts, you dramatically Change your Capacity to attract People and to attract Resources.

I know that sometimes; this sounds Vague and sound too Simplicity to People.

Why? – Because thoughts are not Tangible: You can’t hold it, you can’t feel them, you can’t handle them.

Therefore, some People don’t Value them but they are very Powerful!

Everything – Every Measures of Success; every Shift that will happen in your Life has to happen inside you first.

… In your heart and in your Mind.

Many worry about what they don’t have – They worry about the amount of money they don’t have; they worry about the connections they don’t have; they worry about the opportunities that they don’t have.

The Solution is very simple: “THE PLACE TO GET THEM FIRST IS INSIDE BEFORE YOU GET THEM ON THE OUTSIDE.

You see, there is no Point in a Magnet worrying about what it does not have the Power to attract!

What then should the Magnet do?

… The Magnet should put more Power in itself – “DEVELOP THE CAPACITY!”

So, this is the Big Issue.

Those relationships that you wishes to have but which you don’t have; what can you do to develop the Capacity to have them?

Those opportunities that you wished you had; what can you do to develop the Capacity to have them?

… CHANGE YOUR THINKING!

It is remarkable how People allow himself the Thoughts of Poverty but want to attract Prosperity or wealth!

… You see, when we walk in that way; we are working against the Law!

ABOUT THE SPEAKER

Reverend Sam ADEYEMI is the Senior Pastor, Daystar Christian Centre.

He is also the President of Success Power International, an NGO that among others things specializes in Organizing Financial, Leadership and Motivational Seminars and is President of Daystar Leadership Academy, a leadership School for Business Owners and Ministers of the Gospel.

DISCOVERY MEDIA CREW; REACHING OUT TO THE WORLD THROUGH THE POWER OF THE GOSPEL!

MOSES DURODOLA, TITILAYOMI AJAYI AND TOPE BABALOLA

© DISCOVERY MEDIA CREW (DMC) 2020